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When Relationships Fall Apart 7 prompts

What to Say When Things Fall Apart – Seven Love Prompts

I remember when a lesbian couple came to see me because they wanted to consciously uncouple. It was a raw, messy, deeply vulnerable process — one of the most challenging processes I had been through with a couple. Being able to say you are sorry sincerely and really mean it is one of the most…

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A micro-date can happen anywhere and anytime in as little as five seconds

The Micro-Date Revolution

When I ask my couples clients what they do to nourish their love, I usually get something like: We’ll watch a movie or go to our favorite restaurant over the weekend. The next thing they will tell me is why they haven’t had a date night in weeks or even months. There is nothing wrong with making date night,…

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Why I divored my Father

Why I Divorced my Biological Father

Knowing When to End It Throughout that critical stage of my life when I was growing up, my father was far from a constant presence. He would show up one day, and disappear as quickly the next. I wouldn’t see him for long periods of time and at one point, I wrote a letter to…

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the power of vulnerability 2

I Got My Back – The Power of Vulnerability

If there is one thing I hear more than anything else from my couples, it’s this: “It feels like we endure more hurt from the way we discuss an issue than the issue itself.” Couples want to know how they can stop what can feel like a vicious cycle. The Relationship Achilles’ heel  Often, partners…

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relationship conflict

Dream Job

Here I am about to start a virtual coaching session from my son’s playroom (shhh). I love the flexibility of my work and helping clients find the work they love. I am recalling an article I wrote some time ago about my own path to finding the work I love: 🦋 Dream Job 🦋 My…

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relationship conflict

The Relationship Conflict Cycle Keeping You Stuck

When I work with couples, so much of our work is focused on seeing and uncovering the inner workings of how partners have learned to relate to one another. That is, there is always more to the relationship dance than couples are often able to see – such as the rupturing in communication, which can…

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