Does it seem like old pain is getting in the way of creating a loving partnership?


and deepen your relationships

Hi, my name is Amy-Noelle. I am a relationship therapist and life coach.  I have almost 15 years of experience working with couples.

I help couples resolve the real issues and pain that drive a wedge in their relationship.

I usually can know the health of couples' relationships just by looking at whether and how often they get into what I call the “trap” cycle.

It looks like this:

You cause more hurt by how issues are brought up than the issue itself. 

You never actually get to the real issue! 

The character assassination and blame prevent you from gaining understanding. 

Your relationship is rife with frustration and disappointment, so much so that you feel like you are walking on eggshells and are always anticipate getting into a disagreement. 

Now it takes even less for you to get triggered and upset because of past hurt and past conflicts.

Because of lingering hurt, you knee-jerk into a reactive mode when you sense your partner has a complaint.

The trap is set.

Reactivity begets more reactivity, and resolving issues in this unfriendly climate becomes nearly impossible.

The clients who come to me have often been to other therapists and feel desperate for change. They are seeking more direction and movement in the sessions.

I use a combination of therapy and coaching, allowing for quick positive change and real healing.

With coaching, I give you the tools to keep you from entering the trap cycle I talked about. This is important because just one blow-up can erase any meaningful progress, so you want to stop adding to the hurt as quickly as possible.

Therapy is about recognizing the real issue and healing past hurt that carries over to future arguments.

When both partners can show up authentically without letting blame and little insults break down trust and respect, there is naturally a more felt connection.

If any of this resonates with you, I hope you will consider working with me -- or even another coach and therapist -- so that you start strengthening your relationship and stop falling into “the trap.”

I am a national and international life coach and licensed therapist. I work with clients worldwide—yes, that means I offer my services outside of Texas!

Giving Back to Community

Right now, I am doing something I have never done before. I am offering my couples' sessions at a "community" price. Because I know many people are struggling financially in these times, I am, for the first time, giving couples sessions (regularly $250) for only $125
when you text COMMUNITY to my cell number: 832.319.8471.

In addition, I am offering community packages so that my services are affordable to anyone who would like to start strengthening their relationship today. Because I believe we *are* a community. Don't wait if you are in the "relationship trap" I talked about above. Schedule a free consultation today. Or, if you want to jump right in, you can schedule an appointment!

Does it seem like old pain is getting in the way of creating a loving partnership?

Do you feel like you can't communicate your needs in your relationship without being misunderstood and maligned?

Are the disappointments mounting, creating insurmountable walls in your relationship, lack of intimacy, and lost trust?

When you have moved away from your partner as a friend and confidant, the risk is high that either you or your spouse will seek comfort outside the relationship, further eroding what trust may remain and ultimately adding to the suffering.

Often when you seek help, the patterns are so entrenched and defenses so built up that you feel like you're going in circles, not getting anywhere. It can be quite painful for you and your partner.

And when years pass without resolve, that pain simply gets deeper, and it couples with past trauma, hurts, and disappointments in ways that impact all areas of your life.

But there is another way, and I'd like to share it with you. 


Hi there, I'm Amy-Noelle Shih. I've been assisting couples and individuals for over 15 years to overcome their emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual struggles. Through my experience, I've seen how pain can be a catalyst for transformation, leading to more beauty, empathy, understanding, awareness, and healing.

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I want to tell you about my e-book, The COMPAINION. I wrote this inspirational and practical guide for anyone living with (or supporting someone who has) a chronic illness. My driving desire is to help you gather real support and alchemize even one painful moment into a breakthrough moment that brings you closer to your purity, where you can know that you are always being held.   Read My COMPAINION Story


Writing The COMPAINION has been a big passion project of mine, and I am offering it by donation. This ebook will guide you to:

  • Experience your own wisdom, intuition, body intelligence, and guided instructions in every now moment.
  • See your true and magnificent self as you really, actually are and let go of false identities that never were you.
  • Honor your authentic inner drive.
  • Believe, reclaim, and stand in your power and know your truth, what I call your Power-Truth®.

All proceeds go to support my own healing journey from toxic mold exposure and Lyme disease.


Don't wait for "FriDates" when you can micro-date any now time.

Get my FREE fourteen ways to stay connected to your partner even when you're met with the familiar feeling of "there's just no time" - these micro-dates can be injected into your day anytime! You'll also receive my "Admiration Love letter" that you can give to that special someone in your life.




Amy-Noelle has been endorsed by Dr. Shefali Tsabary, Clinical Psychologist, New York Times Best Selling Author, Recurring Guest on Oprah.

I found Amy-Noelle after being hit by an emotional bus -- unexpected, incredibly painful. She helped me hold steady while I pieced my life back together. She never failed to impress me with her rare combination of warmth, kindness, insight, and sensitivity to the issues I was facing - all without judgment. She has an amazing way of listening and drawing out information that helps identify viable solutions to whatever challenges may be in the way. She also provides insight and information that helped expand my thinking. So many times after spending time with her I felt calm and uplifted. I would not hesitate to recommend her to anyone seeking a counselor/coach/therapist.

~ Leanne

My friends always ask me, "What does your therapist tell you to do? " I tell them she doesn't tell me what to do or not to do - that she doesn't "restrict" self-wisdom. She opens it. One of the greatest things I have learned from our work together is to tell a "truer" story. I've learned to not give pain a narrative. When I practice this, my body wisdom will start to reject what's not good for me or what no longer serves me.

~ Therapy Client 

I wanted to take the time to thank you for all of your help. Our sessions together felt like a flu shot for the body of our marriage. You helped us to be proactive about focusing our energies on fixing the small issues that might have multiplied and infected our relationship health over time. I sincerely believe that this is true and that my marriage is stronger now than it was six months ago. I think our communication skills, the way we manage our negative feelings and our strategies for handling tricky family members have all markedly improved. Thank you for everything you have done!

~ Marriage Counseling Client 

My husband and I started seeing Amy-Noelle because we were having some issues in our marriage. We've only had a few sessions with her, and we're already seeing big improvements in our communication and the way we interact with each other. There's more gentleness and softness, which allows for more love. I can't wait to keep the work going to see how much more our relationship can grow and evolve.

~ Coaching Client