“We are the same
in our seek,
in our yearning,
in our sense of the subtle,
yet unremitting pull
to emerge from breathlessness
We Seek Therapy …
… we turn to friends and family, we read self-help books for guidance not because we see ourselves as incapable. It is often because we sense the incongruence of our actions and cannot understand why we are not able to change it. We may not recognize that our actions can reflect un-serving beliefs that we have inherited from the past, even if we sense this knowing.
We can become stymied by this confusing dilemma — that is, the part that is “doing” and messing everything up for us and the part that intuits our deepest desires.
This often leaves us asking big questions like …
Why is it that I cannot have a fulfilling relationship?
Why do I feel powerless in the most important areas of my life?
Why is it that I keep finding myself in situations in which I experience familiar unwanted feelings?
Where is this anger coming from?
How can I experience happiness when I feel so much uncertainty?
How do I feel less anxious about real life demands?
How do I find the courage to not let fear stand in the way of creating a life that matters?
In all such instances, we often will look for external ways to experience greater happiness. When our best efforts bring about less than desirable change, we can feel utter despair and hopelessness.
When clients initially come to therapy, they oftentimes are seeking immediate and effective ways to deal with their most difficult challenges. Whether they are seeking a more fulfilling relationship with their partner or greater satisfaction in their vocational careers, clients can benefit from having a practical framework to navigate stress-filled situations.
This usually involves gathering your history and gaining a complete picture of your situation. Relevant assessment questionnaires and the most current research will be provided to assist you in this process. Then, in a collaborative manner, we will discuss your therapy goals and specific strategies to begin trying.
I believe that there is more to cultivating wellbeing than having pragmatic solutions to problems or emotional heaviness. It requires transcending any practical goal of relieving symptoms or reducing stress levels and considering the whole person through a holistic lens.
The “practical” can be the active call for us to consider another way of responding to our greatest disappointments. It can be the portal through which we can learn to map the things in life that matter to us. If “practical”’ shows us that our behavior matters, then “more” shows us how to be with every emotion that arises so that we can respond effectively to our most painful disappointments from an AS-IS place.
Therapy is conducted in a highly collaborative manner with an empathic, positive directness.