What to Say When Things Fall Apart – Seven Love Prompts

I remember when a lesbian couple came to see me because they wanted to consciously uncouple. It was a raw, messy, deeply vulnerable process — one of the most challenging processes I had been through with a couple.

Being able to say you are sorry sincerely and really mean it is one of the most healing ways partners can assuage negative feelings and allow healing.

Some healing prompts I like to use are:

 

I’m sorry…

I forgive…

I will always cherish…

I smile whenever I think about…

I see more clearly how…

Because of you…

Thank you…

 

I’m sorry I couldn’t see the pain and sadness you have been carrying sooner.

I’m sorry for all the times I failed to notice what you needed from me.

I’m sorry I have been too wrapped up in my own problems to recognize your bids for connection.

I’m sorry I didn’t take your hand, look into your eyes and let you know how much I deeply care.

I’m sorry for expecting too much from you.

I’m sorry I lost myself.

I’m sorry I didn’t nourish our love.

I’m sorry I wasn’t honest with you about my feelings —that I wasn’t honest with myself about my feelings.

 

I forgive all the ways we hurt each other.

I forgive all the ways we let our egos prevent us from listening to each other and gaining understanding.

I forgive all the breakdowns, lack of communication, hurtful words and actions, and pain.

I forgive how we lost our way, our dreams, our truth.

I forgive how we couldn’t see a better way and let things fall through the cracks.

I forgive all the withholding of love from each other.

I forgive all the times we chose fear over fighting for what we truly desired.

I forgive all the disappointment — and neglecting each other’s heart.

I forgive everything that happened between us.

 

 

 

I will always cherish our meaningful talks and quirky traits and idiosyncrasies that were uniquely us.

I will always cherish the laughter, giddy play, and silly phrases we used to say.

I will always cherish the love we truly shared.

I smile whenever I think about…

I smile whenever I think about the beautiful times and late nights together.

I see more clearly how…

I see more clearly how I might have done it differently.

 

 

 

Because of you, I have learned how to live more openly and honestly.

Because of you, I have learned to be more kind and rooted in integrity.

 

 

Thank you for the incredible journey — the good, the bad, the sweet, the bitter, the hard, the tender — all of it mattered.

Thank you for helping me to embody pure love — Who I Am — Who You Are.

We deserve to be happy and experience love, health, abundance, and aliveness.