Having Compassion for a Covert Narcissist

Having Compassion for a Covert Narcissist

When I Felt Like I Could Move On ɪ̲ɴ̲ ̲ᴍ̲ʏ̲ ̲ᴏ̲ᴡ̲ɴ̲ ̲ᴡ̲ᴏ̲ʀ̲ᴅ̲ꜱ̲ : ɪ ᴄᴀᴘᴛᴜʀᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴠᴏɪᴄᴇs ᴏꜰ ᴍʏ ᴄʟɪᴇɴᴛꜱ, ᴛʜᴇ ᴠᴏɪᴄᴇs ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ʜᴜᴍᴀɴ ᴊᴏᴜʀɴᴇʏ, ᴛʜᴇ ᴠᴏɪᴄᴇs ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ᴜɴꜱᴘᴏᴋᴇɴ ᴅᴇꜱɪʀᴇ ᴛᴏ ʟɪᴠᴇ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴘᴏᴡᴇʀ-ᴛʀᴜᴛʜ®. I loved her 𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘭𝘺. I have replayed in my mind so many moments we shared, questioning whether any of…

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The Toxic Person – and the Capacity for Change

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐨𝐱𝐢𝐜 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 – 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞

I recently talked to someone about toxic relationships, and what he shared with me got me thinking. First, he told me what his psychologist said that changed his life. Next, he said all toxic people have the same toxic traits – regardless of what diagnosis or criteria they meet in The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual…

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Science Versus an Agenda — Sovereignty Questions

Science Versus an Agenda — Sovereignty Questions

Growing up with a Jewish mother, Christian father, and Agnostic stepfather caused me not only to feel confused at various times throughout my childhood but also spurred me to question belief systems rather than blindly adopt them. I wanted to understand where beliefs, traditions, and values originated. I felt Jewish around my Jewish family and…

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Parenting Aha Moments: Are children really resilient?

Parenting Aha Moments: Are children really resilient?

The biggest change happened for me as a parent when I learned to get right about what my child truly needed from me. I remember the early years of being a new mum, spending hours getting my son to eat, as feeds had become an arduous, worry-laden task. My son had severe digestive and metabolic…

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Turning Around the Dreaded Conversations

Turning Around the Dreaded Conversations

Talking About Sex with Your Children As a parent, I wanted a different approach to the oh-so-serious sit-down talks about topics we are culturally conditioned to dread, like sex. It may surprise some people that I started talking to my son about sex before he could talk. Most of us were taught about sex from…

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Body Science

Body Science

Every experience, every emotion felt – and not felt – lives in the cells of our body.  Children are resilient: when they can process difficult moments; when moms and dads dare to say, “I messed up” and cultivate emotionally-corrective experiences; when children are not left to themselves to fill in their own “meaning” or “story…

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What to Say When Things Fall Apart – Seven Love Prompts

When Relationships Fall Apart 7 prompts

I remember when a lesbian couple came to see me because they wanted to consciously uncouple. It was a raw, messy, deeply vulnerable process — one of the most challenging processes I had been through with a couple. Being able to say you are sorry sincerely and really mean it is one of the most…

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The Micro-Date Revolution

A micro-date can happen anywhere and anytime in as little as five seconds

When I ask my couples clients what they do to nourish their love, I usually get something like: We’ll watch a movie or go to our favorite restaurant over the weekend. The next thing they will tell me is why they haven’t had a date night in weeks or even months. There is nothing wrong with making date night,…

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Why I Divorced my Biological Father

Why I divored my Father

Knowing When to End It Throughout that critical stage of my life when I was growing up, my father was far from a constant presence. He would show up one day, and disappear as quickly the next. I wouldn’t see him for long periods of time and at one point, I wrote a letter to…

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I Got My Back – The Power of Vulnerability

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If there is one thing I hear more than anything else from my couples, it’s this: “It feels like we endure more hurt from the way we discuss an issue than the issue itself.” Couples want to know how they can stop what can feel like a vicious cycle. The Relationship Achilles’ heel  Often, partners…

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